Who Cares?!

In our past few posts we’ve identified and discussed Respect as the first Basic Requirement of Love.   Respect is a non-active mental formation or attitude toward self, toward another person or object.

And now we add CARE.  Because it is a basic requirement we can’t proceed to Love without it.  If you/we don’t Care . . . done, case closed, no Love.

CARE is the second Basic Requirement of Love, and it involves action…behaviors commonly associated with Love.  CARE also involves a variety of reasoning, emotions or feelings beyond those of Respect.

CARE can be loosely defined as “concern for,” however as a component of Love, CARE “can’t be said to begin until “intentful” action is initiated to fill real needs…” (The Technology of Love, page 43).  This “intentful” action must be accompanied by an “impulse to take pleasing action,” simply expressed as the intent to please.  So, CARE is really doing something with the intent to please.

CARE, as with the other Basic Requirements of Love, has a range of intensities.  At the minimal level we find Courtesy, and move upward all the way to the highest intensity of Devotion.  At the zero level, below Courtesy, there is Discourtesy, with Rudeness as the negative intensity where Love cannot occur.  We can begin to really understand why rude behavior always creates negative reaction and is destructive to love at all levels, within any relationship or even casual encounter with others.

CARE has ten action Elements: Attentiveness, Listening, Thanking, Encouraging, Praising, Comforting, Assisting, Sharing, Contributing and Protecting. These Elements may occur individually or in any combination, depending on the event.  In future posts we will discuss each of these Elements in much greater depth.  (Click on the Chart below to enlarge.)

Chart from Technology of Love, page 72.

CARE, then, is Love’s energy expenditure, absolutely linked to usefulness or utility with the ever present “intent to please.”

CARE affects us deeply, in ways that seem to defy explanation. In a ground breaking study at the University of Miami, researchers are finding that CARE, at the intensity of Kindness, has very real physical effects.  You can read Dr. David Hamilton’s article here:  “Can Kindness Cut the Risk of Heart Disease?” Such evidence continues to mount, collaborating the research and findings which we are exploring in “The Technology of Love.”

Please listen to our podcast and join the discussion by posting your comments, questions, etc.

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The TG Connection Team

The information in these blog posts and pod casts pertaining to the Causal Factors of Love, the elements/vectors of Love their intensities and their organization are from the work, “The Technology of Love,” by Charles  E.  Hansen and are used with his permission.  All copyright laws apply.

11 Responses to Who Cares?!
  1. […] Last week we explained that Care, in Love’s domain, can’t begin to happen until it is accompanied by the “intent to please,” resulting in action intended to fill a real need.  This week, we again look to Japan where we can see and observe Care “happening” in the darkest of situations; in the middle of unbelievable pain and suffering. […]

  2. Raspberry Seed in the Middle of Love
    July 21, 2011 | 9:36 am

    […] “Care constitutes a union of interests rather than a separation of interests of self and others.” Charles E. Hansen, Technology of Love. […]

  3. In Just 5 Minutes
    August 1, 2011 | 4:51 pm

    […] Eventually, however, I would buy another clock, to replace the one lying there moaning, plug it in and . . . what’s this? It is impossible to set the new clock to the old time. Time stands still for no one. It has a mind of its own. It’s totally out of control! Are we? Do we Care? […]

  4. She Loves Dead People!
    August 22, 2011 | 3:23 pm

    […] Since Pumpkin’s birth, Grandma had been there for her; paying attention, listening, praising, encouraging, etc. […]

  5. […] encountered different intensities of Care, from careless to care […]

  6. Warning! Don’t Feed ‘em Fish!
    August 30, 2011 | 4:13 pm

    […] taught their children how to get along with one another.  They knew the value of Respect and Care, they loved God and they loved their […]

  7. You’re Not Alone
    August 31, 2011 | 7:02 pm

    […] If we aren’t at least being courteous, then we’ve violated Love and fallen into the chasm of Discourtesy and Rudeness.   Nobody likes to be on the receiving end of rude treatment.  It’s a violation of Love!  (Read more about the Intent to Please and see the chart of Care’s Intensities here.) […]

  8. […] ‘doing’ of Love is intentional.  In order to do anything intentionally you have to know what ‘to do.’ […]

  9. What is Love?
    October 5, 2011 | 8:11 pm

    […] the ten action elements of Care. Notice the difference in how you […]

  10. Who you are speaks loudly
    November 3, 2011 | 11:48 am

    […] ‘feeling’ was caused.  I think it was because ‘the intent to please’ was not riding on the actions.   ….it’s what’s […]

  11. Giving Thanks this Thanksgiving
    November 23, 2011 | 9:52 pm

    […] is the third  critical action element of Love.   […]

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Who Cares?!

In our past few posts we’ve identified and discussed Respect as the first Basic Requirement of Love.   Respect is a non-active mental formation or attitude toward self, toward another person or object.

And now we add CARE.  Because it is a basic requirement we can’t proceed to Love without it.  If you/we don’t Care . . . done, case closed, no Love.

CARE is the second Basic Requirement of Love, and it involves action…behaviors commonly associated with Love.  CARE also involves a variety of reasoning, emotions or feelings beyond those of Respect.

CARE can be loosely defined as “concern for,” however as a component of Love, CARE “can’t be said to begin until “intentful” action is initiated to fill real needs…” (The Technology of Love, page 43).  This “intentful” action must be accompanied by an “impulse to take pleasing action,” simply expressed as the intent to please.  So, CARE is really doing something with the intent to please.

CARE, as with the other Basic Requirements of Love, has a range of intensities.  At the minimal level we find Courtesy, and move upward all the way to the highest intensity of Devotion.  At the zero level, below Courtesy, there is Discourtesy, with Rudeness as the negative intensity where Love cannot occur.  We can begin to really understand why rude behavior always creates negative reaction and is destructive to love at all levels, within any relationship or even casual encounter with others.

CARE has ten action Elements: Attentiveness, Listening, Thanking, Encouraging, Praising, Comforting, Assisting, Sharing, Contributing and Protecting. These Elements may occur individually or in any combination, depending on the event.  In future posts we will discuss each of these Elements in much greater depth.  (Click on the Chart below to enlarge.)

Chart from Technology of Love, page 72.

CARE, then, is Love’s energy expenditure, absolutely linked to usefulness or utility with the ever present “intent to please.”

CARE affects us deeply, in ways that seem to defy explanation. In a ground breaking study at the University of Miami, researchers are finding that CARE, at the intensity of Kindness, has very real physical effects.  You can read Dr. David Hamilton’s article here:  “Can Kindness Cut the Risk of Heart Disease?” Such evidence continues to mount, collaborating the research and findings which we are exploring in “The Technology of Love.”

Please listen to our podcast and join the discussion by posting your comments, questions, etc.

Pod cast —

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

The TG Connection Team

The information in these blog posts and pod casts pertaining to the Causal Factors of Love, the elements/vectors of Love their intensities and their organization are from the work, “The Technology of Love,” by Charles  E.  Hansen and are used with his permission.  All copyright laws apply.

11 Responses to Who Cares?!
  1. […] Last week we explained that Care, in Love’s domain, can’t begin to happen until it is accompanied by the “intent to please,” resulting in action intended to fill a real need.  This week, we again look to Japan where we can see and observe Care “happening” in the darkest of situations; in the middle of unbelievable pain and suffering. […]

  2. Raspberry Seed in the Middle of Love
    July 21, 2011 | 9:36 am

    […] “Care constitutes a union of interests rather than a separation of interests of self and others.” Charles E. Hansen, Technology of Love. […]

  3. In Just 5 Minutes
    August 1, 2011 | 4:51 pm

    […] Eventually, however, I would buy another clock, to replace the one lying there moaning, plug it in and . . . what’s this? It is impossible to set the new clock to the old time. Time stands still for no one. It has a mind of its own. It’s totally out of control! Are we? Do we Care? […]

  4. She Loves Dead People!
    August 22, 2011 | 3:23 pm

    […] Since Pumpkin’s birth, Grandma had been there for her; paying attention, listening, praising, encouraging, etc. […]

  5. […] encountered different intensities of Care, from careless to care […]

  6. Warning! Don’t Feed ‘em Fish!
    August 30, 2011 | 4:13 pm

    […] taught their children how to get along with one another.  They knew the value of Respect and Care, they loved God and they loved their […]

  7. You’re Not Alone
    August 31, 2011 | 7:02 pm

    […] If we aren’t at least being courteous, then we’ve violated Love and fallen into the chasm of Discourtesy and Rudeness.   Nobody likes to be on the receiving end of rude treatment.  It’s a violation of Love!  (Read more about the Intent to Please and see the chart of Care’s Intensities here.) […]

  8. […] ‘doing’ of Love is intentional.  In order to do anything intentionally you have to know what ‘to do.’ […]

  9. What is Love?
    October 5, 2011 | 8:11 pm

    […] the ten action elements of Care. Notice the difference in how you […]

  10. Who you are speaks loudly
    November 3, 2011 | 11:48 am

    […] ‘feeling’ was caused.  I think it was because ‘the intent to please’ was not riding on the actions.   ….it’s what’s […]

  11. Giving Thanks this Thanksgiving
    November 23, 2011 | 9:52 pm

    […] is the third  critical action element of Love.   […]

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Who Cares?!

In our past few posts we’ve identified and discussed Respect as the first Basic Requirement of Love.   Respect is a non-active mental formation or attitude toward self, toward another person or object.

And now we add CARE.  Because it is a basic requirement we can’t proceed to Love without it.  If you/we don’t Care . . . done, case closed, no Love.

CARE is the second Basic Requirement of Love, and it involves action…behaviors commonly associated with Love.  CARE also involves a variety of reasoning, emotions or feelings beyond those of Respect.

CARE can be loosely defined as “concern for,” however as a component of Love, CARE “can’t be said to begin until “intentful” action is initiated to fill real needs…” (The Technology of Love, page 43).  This “intentful” action must be accompanied by an “impulse to take pleasing action,” simply expressed as the intent to please.  So, CARE is really doing something with the intent to please.

CARE, as with the other Basic Requirements of Love, has a range of intensities.  At the minimal level we find Courtesy, and move upward all the way to the highest intensity of Devotion.  At the zero level, below Courtesy, there is Discourtesy, with Rudeness as the negative intensity where Love cannot occur.  We can begin to really understand why rude behavior always creates negative reaction and is destructive to love at all levels, within any relationship or even casual encounter with others.

CARE has ten action Elements: Attentiveness, Listening, Thanking, Encouraging, Praising, Comforting, Assisting, Sharing, Contributing and Protecting. These Elements may occur individually or in any combination, depending on the event.  In future posts we will discuss each of these Elements in much greater depth.  (Click on the Chart below to enlarge.)

Chart from Technology of Love, page 72.

CARE, then, is Love’s energy expenditure, absolutely linked to usefulness or utility with the ever present “intent to please.”

CARE affects us deeply, in ways that seem to defy explanation. In a ground breaking study at the University of Miami, researchers are finding that CARE, at the intensity of Kindness, has very real physical effects.  You can read Dr. David Hamilton’s article here:  “Can Kindness Cut the Risk of Heart Disease?” Such evidence continues to mount, collaborating the research and findings which we are exploring in “The Technology of Love.”

Please listen to our podcast and join the discussion by posting your comments, questions, etc.

Pod cast —

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

The TG Connection Team

The information in these blog posts and pod casts pertaining to the Causal Factors of Love, the elements/vectors of Love their intensities and their organization are from the work, “The Technology of Love,” by Charles  E.  Hansen and are used with his permission.  All copyright laws apply.

11 Responses to Who Cares?!
  1. […] Last week we explained that Care, in Love’s domain, can’t begin to happen until it is accompanied by the “intent to please,” resulting in action intended to fill a real need.  This week, we again look to Japan where we can see and observe Care “happening” in the darkest of situations; in the middle of unbelievable pain and suffering. […]

  2. Raspberry Seed in the Middle of Love
    July 21, 2011 | 9:36 am

    […] “Care constitutes a union of interests rather than a separation of interests of self and others.” Charles E. Hansen, Technology of Love. […]

  3. In Just 5 Minutes
    August 1, 2011 | 4:51 pm

    […] Eventually, however, I would buy another clock, to replace the one lying there moaning, plug it in and . . . what’s this? It is impossible to set the new clock to the old time. Time stands still for no one. It has a mind of its own. It’s totally out of control! Are we? Do we Care? […]

  4. She Loves Dead People!
    August 22, 2011 | 3:23 pm

    […] Since Pumpkin’s birth, Grandma had been there for her; paying attention, listening, praising, encouraging, etc. […]

  5. […] encountered different intensities of Care, from careless to care […]

  6. Warning! Don’t Feed ‘em Fish!
    August 30, 2011 | 4:13 pm

    […] taught their children how to get along with one another.  They knew the value of Respect and Care, they loved God and they loved their […]

  7. You’re Not Alone
    August 31, 2011 | 7:02 pm

    […] If we aren’t at least being courteous, then we’ve violated Love and fallen into the chasm of Discourtesy and Rudeness.   Nobody likes to be on the receiving end of rude treatment.  It’s a violation of Love!  (Read more about the Intent to Please and see the chart of Care’s Intensities here.) […]

  8. […] ‘doing’ of Love is intentional.  In order to do anything intentionally you have to know what ‘to do.’ […]

  9. What is Love?
    October 5, 2011 | 8:11 pm

    […] the ten action elements of Care. Notice the difference in how you […]

  10. Who you are speaks loudly
    November 3, 2011 | 11:48 am

    […] ‘feeling’ was caused.  I think it was because ‘the intent to please’ was not riding on the actions.   ….it’s what’s […]

  11. Giving Thanks this Thanksgiving
    November 23, 2011 | 9:52 pm

    […] is the third  critical action element of Love.   […]

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Who Cares?!

In our past few posts we’ve identified and discussed Respect as the first Basic Requirement of Love.   Respect is a non-active mental formation or attitude toward self, toward another person or object.

And now we add CARE.  Because it is a basic requirement we can’t proceed to Love without it.  If you/we don’t Care . . . done, case closed, no Love.

CARE is the second Basic Requirement of Love, and it involves action…behaviors commonly associated with Love.  CARE also involves a variety of reasoning, emotions or feelings beyond those of Respect.

CARE can be loosely defined as “concern for,” however as a component of Love, CARE “can’t be said to begin until “intentful” action is initiated to fill real needs…” (The Technology of Love, page 43).  This “intentful” action must be accompanied by an “impulse to take pleasing action,” simply expressed as the intent to please.  So, CARE is really doing something with the intent to please.

CARE, as with the other Basic Requirements of Love, has a range of intensities.  At the minimal level we find Courtesy, and move upward all the way to the highest intensity of Devotion.  At the zero level, below Courtesy, there is Discourtesy, with Rudeness as the negative intensity where Love cannot occur.  We can begin to really understand why rude behavior always creates negative reaction and is destructive to love at all levels, within any relationship or even casual encounter with others.

CARE has ten action Elements: Attentiveness, Listening, Thanking, Encouraging, Praising, Comforting, Assisting, Sharing, Contributing and Protecting. These Elements may occur individually or in any combination, depending on the event.  In future posts we will discuss each of these Elements in much greater depth.  (Click on the Chart below to enlarge.)

Chart from Technology of Love, page 72.

CARE, then, is Love’s energy expenditure, absolutely linked to usefulness or utility with the ever present “intent to please.”

CARE affects us deeply, in ways that seem to defy explanation. In a ground breaking study at the University of Miami, researchers are finding that CARE, at the intensity of Kindness, has very real physical effects.  You can read Dr. David Hamilton’s article here:  “Can Kindness Cut the Risk of Heart Disease?” Such evidence continues to mount, collaborating the research and findings which we are exploring in “The Technology of Love.”

Please listen to our podcast and join the discussion by posting your comments, questions, etc.

Pod cast —

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

The TG Connection Team

The information in these blog posts and pod casts pertaining to the Causal Factors of Love, the elements/vectors of Love their intensities and their organization are from the work, “The Technology of Love,” by Charles  E.  Hansen and are used with his permission.  All copyright laws apply.

11 Responses to Who Cares?!
  1. […] Last week we explained that Care, in Love’s domain, can’t begin to happen until it is accompanied by the “intent to please,” resulting in action intended to fill a real need.  This week, we again look to Japan where we can see and observe Care “happening” in the darkest of situations; in the middle of unbelievable pain and suffering. […]

  2. Raspberry Seed in the Middle of Love
    July 21, 2011 | 9:36 am

    […] “Care constitutes a union of interests rather than a separation of interests of self and others.” Charles E. Hansen, Technology of Love. […]

  3. In Just 5 Minutes
    August 1, 2011 | 4:51 pm

    […] Eventually, however, I would buy another clock, to replace the one lying there moaning, plug it in and . . . what’s this? It is impossible to set the new clock to the old time. Time stands still for no one. It has a mind of its own. It’s totally out of control! Are we? Do we Care? […]

  4. She Loves Dead People!
    August 22, 2011 | 3:23 pm

    […] Since Pumpkin’s birth, Grandma had been there for her; paying attention, listening, praising, encouraging, etc. […]

  5. […] encountered different intensities of Care, from careless to care […]

  6. Warning! Don’t Feed ‘em Fish!
    August 30, 2011 | 4:13 pm

    […] taught their children how to get along with one another.  They knew the value of Respect and Care, they loved God and they loved their […]

  7. You’re Not Alone
    August 31, 2011 | 7:02 pm

    […] If we aren’t at least being courteous, then we’ve violated Love and fallen into the chasm of Discourtesy and Rudeness.   Nobody likes to be on the receiving end of rude treatment.  It’s a violation of Love!  (Read more about the Intent to Please and see the chart of Care’s Intensities here.) […]

  8. […] ‘doing’ of Love is intentional.  In order to do anything intentionally you have to know what ‘to do.’ […]

  9. What is Love?
    October 5, 2011 | 8:11 pm

    […] the ten action elements of Care. Notice the difference in how you […]

  10. Who you are speaks loudly
    November 3, 2011 | 11:48 am

    […] ‘feeling’ was caused.  I think it was because ‘the intent to please’ was not riding on the actions.   ….it’s what’s […]

  11. Giving Thanks this Thanksgiving
    November 23, 2011 | 9:52 pm

    […] is the third  critical action element of Love.   […]

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